According to Anthony Robbins
If I see success in someone or something, I want it too! The best and fastest way to achieve success is to model myself or my product after something that is already successful.
Here’s what I did. Continue reading
Category Archives: People
Modeling
Flow
Mihály Csíkszentmihályi in his book “Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
It turns out that the state of flow comes more naturally to some people. Some people are Autotelic and this means that they have self-motivation and are internally driven. This quality of their personality makes them “gifted” when it comes to being able to achieve the state of flow. But others can achieve this state as well if they know what to do to achieve it.
How do you achieve it? There are certain factors that allow the state of flow, and they are…
Working with Foreign Cultures – Changing Speech and Writing
When working with foreign cultures, it can influence the way you speak and write to the point where your speaking and writing with your home country colleagues can change – for the worse!
I’ve noticed this because I have worked with foreign cultures for years now and have adjusted my writing style in emails to foreign contacts in order to accommodate their limited understanding of my English language and grammar. How, you ask?
Try Until – A Debrouillard Strategy
First, a definition of the French word, debrouillard…
debrouillard: [de-broo-yar]
- adjective
1. skilled at adapting to any situation;
resourceful.- noun
2. a resourceful person who can act
independently or cope with any development.
One of the things that this word means to me is that I must “try until.” This “try until” attitude is a hallmark of great people and it is a system of thinking that will make you extraordinary! Who would not want someone on their team that embodies the debrouillard mindset? Who wouldn’t want to know someone like this? They don’t give up.
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Too Good to be True – Too Bad to be True
I’ve been told that “if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.” This is a great saying and almost always right! I avoid getting my hopes up if something just seems implausible (couldn’t happen) or improbable (probably won’t happen) because it seems just “too good.”.
But how often have you heard “if it seems too bad to be true, it probably is?” I turned the other (“good”) saying around and got this one. And why not – it’s the same thing really!
Bypass Email – Communicate Effectively
Email is over-used for communication in business and personal life. It has its place, but has become the lazy person’s alternative communication strategy.
For non-confrontational people and organizations, it has become the standard way to communicate. I think this is wrong for a few reasons.
- Some people studied it and found that a small percentage of communication effectiveness is via the written word. The remaining (>80%) is through the spoken word, expressions, gestures, and other body language. So email is not very effective at getting a message across.
- You can easily be misunderstood when communicating via email, especially if the recipient has never met you or “know what you mean” when you say what you say. There are no visual or auditory cues that help state your message – only what you wrote. We all know that words and phrases can be taken different ways.
- It is not constrained by time. By this I mean that if I am talking directly with someone, they respond immediately. If via email, the response will be delayed. This creates anxiety for the sender if they think of email as immediate (as many people seem to do). Anxiety makes communication worse.
The solutions? Simple. Continue reading
A Chronology of Motivational Writers and Speakers
Updated 2-August-2011
This concept map shown here is the linkage and chronology (upper people are older or were born earlier) of motivational and self-help writers and speakers throughout history, based on how they attributed who taught or influenced them. Continue reading
Self-help’s Common Messages
I have read a lot of “self-help” and “motivational” books lately. They certainly work. They all have the same things in common. Here they are: Continue reading
Assertiveness
Here is a cheap, easy and effective life-enhancing technique that you can begin and see immediate results whether you fit any of the criteria or not. I highly recommend that you do this because it is simple, effective, and it works immediately. You will see results.
I have learned that many people, including me, are not very assertive. They get “ran over’ by everyone else and do not stand up for themselves. They get frustrated at how things are going. Discouraged. Upset. Maybe they even live in constant anxiety and fear. Fear of losing their job. Fear of failure. Anxious to please others. Sound even a little bit familiar to you?
If so, there’s good news. You can change this. I have started this process myself, and it is making a huge difference in how I feel and how I deal with others. Keep in mind here that I didn’t have to do it. I didn’t have to change anything. I was acceptably effective at dealing with situations and people, but I wanted more. That is the key. I wanted to be better.
Also, if you are the other way – too assertive. Too angry all the time. Too demanding. This can help.
Doesn’t sound familiar? Do it anyway. You will be surprised! No matter who you are, you have to deal with people – probably daily. Deal with them better. Interact with them better. Feel better about what you do. Reduce your anxiety.
Enough of me talking, o.k. here it is. It’s easy: Continue reading
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Lars Lentz
